Minimizing Potential in Pedophilia

The issue, then, become how do we protect children from these unsafe situations?  Again, education is a big part of the answer.  We simply must educate our students, and when possible, their families, about the unpleasant dangers that can occur when they are on the Internet.  This is so they will recognize the danger and know how to handle it.  Of course, educators and parents monitoring students while on the Internet must be a given.

Most contact with pedophiles occurs in chat rooms and most schools don’t allow the use of chat rooms.  This is a double-edged sword, in that children’s only experience in the chat rooms are when they are in places where they are most vulnerable, at home and in libraries.  Children need to learn that chat rooms are anonymous and that they should be wary of information given to them there.  It’s not too hard to pass yourself off as someone’s 14 year-old cousin in another state.  They need to stop and think about how easy it could be to pass themselves off as someone they aren’t  who is in a different place than they are.  It makes you feel safe when someone tells you they’re three states away, but they could be in your town.

They need to learn not to give out any personal information about themselves.  They may think certain things are OK, so they must be shown how easy it would be to find someone named Jenny in a town called Somat with two middle schools.  She’s a cheer leader and she’s blond.  She also is a swimmer and plays clarinet. Most of that information could just slip during a conversation when a child thinks they aren’t telling any personal information. With the resources available on the Internet, a predator could find this child fairly easily.   Then to be sure or to eliminate some information, he could drop the name of her school into the conversation.  She might not even notice that she confirms it.

Educators also need to make it clear that if approached by someone inappropriately, it is not the child’s fault, and they need to tell an adult they trust immediately.  No one will blame them and their safety must come first.

Be aware of the most common profile, but realize that we don’t always recognize these things in children. These children usually have low self-esteem that may or may not be visible.  They may be kids that put up a good front and appear to be popular, but feel they don’t fit in.  They can be shy and lonely, overweight, or they may be  having difficulties at home, such as an ongoing divorce or a problem brother or sister who takes up their parent’s attention.  Keep in mind, even when kids appear popular, they may feel they have to be someone they’re not in order to fit in.  Someone who accepts them readily would be a relief to them.  If you think a child may be having difficulties, try to befriend them as they may be in need of a safe adult friend to talk to.  Talk to your school counselor, who may have a better grasp on the child’s background.

Encourage parents to stay involved in their child’s online life.  Listen at parent/teacher conferences when they talk about the amount of time their child spends online.  Some of the signs that should alarm you would be:

  • if their child is spending an excessive amount of time online and telling them it’s for school
  • if they catch them online when they think they’ve gone to bed
  • if their child turns off the computer when they walk into the room,
  • if they are receiving mail and phone calls from people the parents don’t know
  • if the child has become withdrawn and angry.

 

Provided by

DR WIDODO JUDARWANTO
FIGHT CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE AND PEDOPHILIA 

Yudhasmara Foundation

JL TAMAN BENDUNGAN ASAHAN 5 JAKARTA PUSAT, JAKARTA INDONESIA 10210

PHONE : (021) 70081995 – 5703646

email : judarwanto@gmail.com, 

https://pedophiliasexabuse.wordpress.com/

Copyright © 2009, Fight Child Sexual Abuse and Pedophilia  Network  Information Education Network. All rights reserved 

Provided by

DR WIDODO JUDARWANTO
FIGHT CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE AND PEDOPHILIA

Yudhasmara Foundation

JL TAMAN BENDUNGAN ASAHAN 5 JAKARTA PUSAT, JAKARTA INDONESIA 10210

PHONE : (021) 70081995 – 5703646

email : judarwanto@gmail.com,

https://pedophiliasexabuse.wordpress.com/

Copyright © 2009, Fight Child Sexual Abuse and Pedophilia  Network  Information Education Network. All rights reserved

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