Pedophilia study yet another slight to the short

Pedophilia study yet another slight to the short

Lynda Hurst      
Feature Writer     
 

Consider, if you will, the world of shorter men:

They’re more likely to be bullied as children. Just ask one of them about what the pecking order was like for a “squirt” in the playground. But they’re also more likely to have poor self-esteem, earn lower incomes and have less rewarding careers, develop high blood pressure and coronary disease; oh, and to remain childless, because they’re more likely to lose out in love, women having an evolutionary predilection for partners taller than themselves.

And if shorter men get mad and fight back – try to make their mark in a world that is widely if unwittingly biased against them – they get ridiculed as aggressive little Napoleons.

The last thing they needed this, or any other, week was to read that short stature is being linked to pedophilia. That had all the characteristics of a final straw.

But a new study by Toronto’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health has found that men who are sexually attracted to children tend to be shorter than the average male height, which in Canada is five-feet-10 inches.

“It’s ridiculous,” groans Christopher Hamre. “It’s also dangerous. To equate short men with pedophilia is painting with far too broad a brush.”

The study stresses that the vast majority of short men have zero sexual proclivity toward children, but Hamre knows that won’t mitigate matters. He’s vice president of the media watchdog and education group NOSSA (the New York-based National Organization for Short-Statured Adults), and he’s seen enough overgeneralizing studies and the headlines they generate to last him a lifetime.

This one is almost as bad, he says, as the study last year by two Princeton economists. Then he corrects himself. No, being linked to pedophilia is worse.

The Princeton study found a correlation between height and intelligence. On average, it said, the taller earn more money than the shorter not only because of workplace discrimination against the latter – which has long been demonstrated – but because they are actually smarter.

And they’re smarter because they received better prenatal care and good nutrition in the critical birth-to-age-3 period.

Hamre, who is 5′ 3″, doesn’t buy it. He believes stature is 95 per cent genetic; the rest, okay, good early nutrition. But his parents are short, therefore so is he. End of (short) story: “If you’re taller than Einstein (5’9″),” he scoffs, “would you be smarter?”

Ah, the injustices of diminished longitude. The old Napoleon complex business, for a start.

That all began in 1912 when Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler came up with the idea of the inferiority complex. He cited Napoleon as an example of someone driven to aggressive extremes to compensate for a perceived lack. In other words, he picked a fight with the rest of Europe to counteract his diminutive stature. Just one problem: Napoleon was 5′ 6″, not especially short for his time.

Politically correct researchers now prefer “short man syndrome,” and at least one believes he has debunked it. In research conducted this spring for a BBC program titled F— Off, I’m Short, English psychologist Mike Eslea had 10 men of average height and 10 shorter men duel with wooden sticks.

One of each pair was instructed to deliberately provoke the other by rapping him across the knuckles. Heart monitors tracking physical reaction revealed it was the taller, not shorter, men who lost their temper faster and hit back.

“The results were consistent with the view that small man syndrome is a pervasive myth,” said Eslea. “When people see a short man being aggressive, they’re likely to think it is due to his size simply because that attribute grabs their attention.”

Do we really venerate the tall and stigmatize the small? Yes, in spades.

We’re infinitely more likely to make thoughtless, disparaging cracks about short people because nobody gets pulled up short for doing it. Except for Randy Newman, who went too far with his “Short People (got no reason to live)” song, which he has apparently regretted ever since.

Take the infamous 1970s New York magazine piece which used a grid to determine how short Robert Redford actually was, seeing as he refused to give his height and the editors suspected for good reason. Comparing photos of him with actors whose height was known, they mathematically concluded he was 5′ 9″, just.

Small wonder that 5′ 6″ Dustin Hoffman is said to have spent years in therapy. Or the best way Nicole Kidman could get back at Tom Cruise for ending their marriage was to say on TV that, happily, she “can wear high heels again.” Princess Diana said the same thing in private.

Research has shown that height prejudice exists in politics (taller candidates tend to win), business, sports, of course, and earnings potential. An inch of height is said to be worth $789 a year in salary, about $5,525 more per year. Compounded over the course of a 30-year career, that’s literally hundreds of thousands of dollars more. Because of your height.

The findings are replicated time and again.

Tall men are regarded as natural leaders. They’re looked up to, figuratively and literally, while shorter men are looked down on, or just overlooked. And it’s universally true. Since 2004, China, never loath to interferfere with its citizens’ lives, has had a policy restricting government jobs to those deemed of sufficient height.

The famous survey of CEOs at America’s Fortune 500 companies found that 58 per cent of them stood 6′ tall or more; only 3 per cent 5′ 7″or less. Which seems to reflect the findings of a 1987 study which asked people to rate the qualities of men of varying heights. Whether short or tall themselves, participants rated shorter men as less mature, less positive, less secure, less masculine, less successful, less capable, less confident, less outgoing, more inhibited and more passive.

And it’s true that women, responding to some primeval need, consistently select men taller than themselves. Height translates as strength and good health, traits they want to pass on to their children.

Only two of 79 women in one U.S. study said they’d date a shorter man; the rest wanted someone at least 1.7 inches taller. In a survey of married couples, less than one-half of 1 per cent of the wives were taller than their husbands.

“The universally acknowledged cardinal rule of mate selection is that the male will be significantly taller than the female,” write two U.S. psychologists, Leslie Martel and Henry Biller, in Stature and Stigma. “This rule is almost inviolable.”

Which is short-sighted, theorizes Nicholas Herpin at the National Institute for Statistics and Economic Studies in Paris. In a study of 2,000 European men, he found that the tall did indeed enjoy all the predictable rewards, but the fact that shorter men remain single longer could be a plus: “They have shown they are hard workers and therefore look like reliable providers; they are in a position to compensate for their physical handicap.”

Indubitably true. But, to the diminutive out there, cold comfort in a big, mean world.

Therefore, it may help to know that the sexual deviance study also found that pedophiles are three times more likely to be left-handed. But that’s a group no one, short or tall, wants to tangle with.

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Minimizing Potential in Pedophilia

The issue, then, become how do we protect children from these unsafe situations?  Again, education is a big part of the answer.  We simply must educate our students, and when possible, their families, about the unpleasant dangers that can occur when they are on the Internet.  This is so they will recognize the danger and know how to handle it.  Of course, educators and parents monitoring students while on the Internet must be a given.

Most contact with pedophiles occurs in chat rooms and most schools don’t allow the use of chat rooms.  This is a double-edged sword, in that children’s only experience in the chat rooms are when they are in places where they are most vulnerable, at home and in libraries.  Children need to learn that chat rooms are anonymous and that they should be wary of information given to them there.  It’s not too hard to pass yourself off as someone’s 14 year-old cousin in another state.  They need to stop and think about how easy it could be to pass themselves off as someone they aren’t  who is in a different place than they are.  It makes you feel safe when someone tells you they’re three states away, but they could be in your town.

They need to learn not to give out any personal information about themselves.  They may think certain things are OK, so they must be shown how easy it would be to find someone named Jenny in a town called Somat with two middle schools.  She’s a cheer leader and she’s blond.  She also is a swimmer and plays clarinet. Most of that information could just slip during a conversation when a child thinks they aren’t telling any personal information. With the resources available on the Internet, a predator could find this child fairly easily.   Then to be sure or to eliminate some information, he could drop the name of her school into the conversation.  She might not even notice that she confirms it.

Educators also need to make it clear that if approached by someone inappropriately, it is not the child’s fault, and they need to tell an adult they trust immediately.  No one will blame them and their safety must come first.

Be aware of the most common profile, but realize that we don’t always recognize these things in children. These children usually have low self-esteem that may or may not be visible.  They may be kids that put up a good front and appear to be popular, but feel they don’t fit in.  They can be shy and lonely, overweight, or they may be  having difficulties at home, such as an ongoing divorce or a problem brother or sister who takes up their parent’s attention.  Keep in mind, even when kids appear popular, they may feel they have to be someone they’re not in order to fit in.  Someone who accepts them readily would be a relief to them.  If you think a child may be having difficulties, try to befriend them as they may be in need of a safe adult friend to talk to.  Talk to your school counselor, who may have a better grasp on the child’s background.

Encourage parents to stay involved in their child’s online life.  Listen at parent/teacher conferences when they talk about the amount of time their child spends online.  Some of the signs that should alarm you would be:

  • if their child is spending an excessive amount of time online and telling them it’s for school
  • if they catch them online when they think they’ve gone to bed
  • if their child turns off the computer when they walk into the room,
  • if they are receiving mail and phone calls from people the parents don’t know
  • if the child has become withdrawn and angry.

 

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Pedophilia causes and typologies

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Perhaps no single act causes such strong emotions as the act of child sexual abuse. Child molesters can not even find refuge in prisons where rapists and murderers are commonplace. These offenders are shunned in every aspect of our society, yet there is no consensus as to the causes of this behavior.
Sexual abuse of children is not new, and has not always been socially taboo. The ancient Greeks and Romans used children for sexual gratification(Langevin, 1983). In Greece, it was commonplace for adolescent males to be forced into sexual relationships with mature males. This behavior was normal and not objected to by the child”s parents nor the Greek government(Langevin, 1983). The Romans encouraged adolescent boys and girls not to protest being sold into prostitution. The Roman government even went so far as to declare a public holiday honoring young prostitutes(Kahr, 1991).
Sex with children in the modern era is alive and well, the power of an older person is so great that their young victims often never tell of the horrors that they have endured. There is also a pedophile enhancement movement, with confessed pedophiles insisting that their behavior is not wrong or immoral. Organizations dedicated to the social acceptance of sex with children are not new, yet have had a large upstart in membership since the early 1970″s(Charon, 1979).
Because of the extreme sensitivity of the subject, research in this field is quite underdeveloped. Researchers have even had trouble in agreeing what to call the phenomenon. Much research on the victims has dubbed the act as child sexual abuse, most research on the offenders has labeled it as child molesting or pedophilia. The term pedophilia has some utility since it suggests a predisposition for the act separate from the act itself. The ambiguity of this term however, is what causes confusion. Pedophilia can mean child sexual abuse ranging from an arousal to children with no or little action, to sexual penetration of the child. For the purposes of this paper the terms pedophilia, child sexual abuse, and child molestation will be used interchangeably.
This paper will focus on the possible causes of child sexual abuse. It will examine several etiologies of pedophiles as suggested by researchers. To reduce this behavior in offenders, we must first attempt to gain an understanding of WHY? This question has no easy answer, and the researchers in this field have found very little to agree upon. There is is however, common ground which may enable us to combine theories into a workable start to a solution of the “unspeakable crime”.
Pedophiles can be classified into different categories by several issues, the most common of which are causation, and victim-relationship. Using different classifications to isolate pedophiliac behavior can help us to understand this behavior and begin to find methods in which it may be contained. `

CLASSIFICATION OF PEDOPHILES
Pedophile classification is a hotly debated topic that varies significantly in it”s origins. There are a few standards however, pedophiles can be separated by those who sexually abuse members of there own family or step-families, and those who abuse non-family members(Langevin, 1983). Even this simple distinction is not always accurate though, often familial offenders have previously offended non-family members(Hunter, 1990). Some common causes of pedophilia have found much popular and scholarly support, and these etiologies can give a general profile of some of the origins of child sexual abuse. While the names of this etiologies vary greatly, the descriptions of each remain essentially intact.

Conditioned Response Theory
Some researchers have maintained that the pedophile becomes conditioned to respond to young, sexually under-developed bodies. It has been suggested that boys begin masturbating to fantasies that involve sexually immature bodies, and then become so conditioned to these images that they need them to create sexual gratification(McGuire, Carlisle, & Young, 1965). Garland and Dougher(1990) theorized two reasons for this behavior leading to the development of pedophiliac behavior:(1) and adolescent”s sexual activity with persons his or her own age could condition sexual arousal to pubescent children, and (2) through memory distortions that have occur with the passage of time, the child or adolescent who was sexually victimized by an adult developed a fantasy that places him or her in the role of the aggressor rather than in the role of the victim. As a result of this recurrent fantasy, he or she then becomes sexually conditioned to respond to children.
Learned behavior closely resembles the conditioned response theory. Pedophilia as a learned behavior is due to sexual abuse of the abuser as a child. The pedophile then begins to imitate this behavior later in life(Groth, Hobson, and Gary, 1982).

Social Skills Theory
Social skills that have been underdeveloped or dysfunctional social skills have been suggested as a possible explanation for pedophilia, especially relating to persons of the opposite sex. Segal and Marshall(1985) compared rapists, child molesters, non-sexual offenders, and two control groups on social skill ability. The researchers based their social skill ratings based on taped conversations with females and found that all offender groups were less socially competent than the control groups. The child molesters were less skilled at predicting and evaluating their own performance in heterosexual situations. Interacting with children may giver the pedophile a feeling of control and reduce anxiety(Langevin, 1983).

Low Self-esteem
Pedophilia has often been linked with previous emotional, physical, or sexual trauma. This trauma becomes so painful that it results in underdevelopment or a stifling of future development(Groth, Hobson, and Gary,1982). According to this line of reasoning this underdevelopment will not allow a person to mature emotionally as his or her body matures. The pedophile is the emotional equivalent of a child, and thus depends on them and begins to view them as sexual objects as well(Langevin, 1983). Using children in a sexual manner to cope with anxiety is reinforced and becomes a normal behavior pattern.

Pedophilia as an Addiction
Pedophilia as an addiction is a fairly new way of examining this type of behavior. In the early 1980″s researchers began to ask questions about pedophiliacs” behavior and found that parallels could be drawn between this and other addictive behaviors. Patrick Carnes(1983) developed a model of sexual addiction to explain the behaviors of sexual abusers. Carnes suggested that molestation of children is a sexual addiction. He stated that the addict moves through a four-stage process, with each step becoming more addictive.
Preoccupation is the first stage in Carnes” model. The addict is unable to think about anything else except sex. The addict begins to seek experiences to satisfy their desires. Ritualization is the second stage, in which the addict will engage in specific behaviors that culminate in sexually acting out behaviors. Compulsive behavior is the third stage, which is the sex act. The fourth and final stage is despair. This is when the addict realizes that there is a lack of control over the compulsive behaviors.
Carnes suggested three separate levels of addiction within this model. Level one addicts are associated with pornography, compulsive masturbation, repeatedly engaging in purely sexual relationships with no other meaning, and prostitution. Level two behaviors include illegal sexual acts with another person being victimized emotionally, but not physically(exhibition, voyeurism). Level three behavior includes rape, incest, and pedophiliac behavior.

Feminist Theory
The feminist theory argues that children are easy targets for sexual abuse by mature males because of the emphasis that our society puts on the male being the dominant, powerful, and controlling partner in intimate relationships(Hite, 1981). Males, on the other hand tend to search out sexual partners who are “younger, smaller, and weaker than themselves”(Finkelhor and Araji, 1986, p. 149).
Child pornography and advertising have been targeted by some feminists as having a role in the onset of pedophilia(Rush, 1980). The reasoning for these beliefs are based on the assumption that viewing pornography eroticizes children, and teaches adolescents to become aroused by children.

Family Theories
Pedophilia within the family, or incest is usually found in families where the family unit is rigid and lacking any guidelines or boundaries(Will, 1983). Families in which incest occurs are both physically and socially isolated from the community in which they live. Family members depend only on one another for their needs and rarely seek outside assistance for anything. Frequently the child is forced to grow up quickly and assume the role of caretaker within the family. This caretaking role is then pushed beyond conventional limits to include the physical needs of an adult within the family. The needs of the child are given very little recognition by the parents.
Families have been classified into two general types of units in which incest is more likely to occur. These include the “Chaotic family” and the “normal-appearing” family(Kempe and Kempe, 1984). The chaotic family is typically of low socioeconomic status; is dysfunctional in that the family members have histories of substance abuse, incarceration, violence, and most members have very little or no education. Children raised within family units such as this are more likely to become targets of interfamilial sexual abuse.
The “normal-appearing ” family gives off the impression that everything is perfectly normal. Frequently the parents have been married for years, are financially secure, and have established roles within the community(Kempe & Kempe, 1984). Incestuous parents in this type of family are often unable to care for their children our themselves, either emotionally or physically. They are usually quite needy and turn to their children to fulfill those needs. Incest in this type of family is especially troublesome since even if it is reported, a conviction is unlikely without solid physical proof. The adult is an fine upstanding member of the community in their eyes. Often the authorities will side with the adult and punish the child for these attempts to bring pain upon their parents(Kempe & Kempe, 1984).
In both the “chaotic” and the “normal-appearing” families, incest is often carried on from one generation to another. This phenomenon has been dubbed the intergenerational transmission of incest(Kempe & Kempe, 1984).

 

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Pedophilia on the Internet

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JoLynn Plato, Blessed Sacrament School, Springfield,

 

Children are the world’s most precious commodity. In the United States there are many entities that hold the responsibility of raising a child. The family is the central nurturer, followed closely by the community, and lastly by the schools. Each of these groups has a growing concern over an exponentially exploding concept: the freedom of the Internet and the pedophiles who are found lurking there.

On February 15, 1999, NBC Nightly News reported that over seven million children under the age of twelve use the Internet in this country. The following night they shared a closely related statistic: over 10,000 pedophile web sites exist on the Internet.  The etymology of the word “pedophile” is innocent enough.  According to the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (1981),  “pedo-” is a Greek prefix indicating “child;” “-phile” is derived from Latin, Greek, and French and means “having a strong love or affinity or preference for.”  The connotation of the term “pedophile” in the United States has become synonymous with the term child molester.  Basically, a pedophile takes his/her love for children too far in the area of sexual exploitation of the young.

Pedophiles have found a new way to lure children. They enter freely into homes. They “chat” with children. A pedophile ensnares the most vulnerable young citizens into believing that s/he is the only one who truly understands the plight of the misunderstood, mistreated, sexually confused children of the world. They hide behind obscure screen names. They lie behind false genders and ages.

Take, for example, the following story relayed via e-mail. This is not uncommon work for undercover police officers who are trying to keep children safe.

Shannon could hear the footsteps behind her as she walked toward home. The thought of being followed made her heart beat faster.   

“You’re being silly,” she told herself, “no one is following you.”

To be safe, she began to walk faster, but the footsteps kept up with her pace. She was afraid to look back and she was glad she was almost home.

Shannon said a quick prayer, “God please get me home safe.” She saw the porch light burning and ran the rest of the way to her house.

Once inside, she leaned against the door for a moment, relieved to be in the safety of her home. She glanced out the window to see if anyone was there. The sidewalk was empty.   After tossing her books on the sofa, she decided to grab a snack and get on-line.

She logged on under her screen name, ByAngel213. She checked her Buddy List and saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him
an instant message:

ByAngel213: Hi I’m glad you are on! I thought someone was following
me home today. It was really weird!

GoTo123: LOL You watch too much TV. Why would someone be
following you?  Don’t you live in a safe neighborhood?

ByAngel213: Of course I do. LOL I guess it was my imagination cuz’ didn’t see anybody when I looked out.

GoTo123: Unless you gave your name out on-line.  You haven’t done that have you?

ByAngel213: Of course not. I’m not stupid you know.

GoTo123: Did you have a softball game after school today?

ByAngel213: Yes and we won!!

GoTo123: That’s great! Who did you play?

ByAngel213: We played the Hornets. LOL.  Their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees. LOL

GoTo123: What is your team called?

ByAngel213: We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really cool.

GoTo123: Did you pitch?

ByAngel213: No I play second base. I got to go. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don’t want them mad at me. Bye!

GoTo123: Catch you later. Bye

Meanwhile…

GoTo123 went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up, he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.

Her name: Shannon
Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985
Age:13
State where she lived: North Carolina
Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall.

Besides this information, he knew she lived in Canton because she had just told him.   He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 p.m. every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team, and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey.  He knew she was in the seventh grade at the Canton Junior High School. She had told him all this in the conversations they had on-line.  He had enough information to find her now.

Shannon didn’t tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ball park that day. She didn’t want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters, her parents wouldn’t be so overprotective.

By Thursday, Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her. Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her.  It was then that the memory came back.

She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely.  He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him.  He didn’t look scary and she quickly dismissed the fear she had felt.

After the game, he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on the back of her shirt. He knew he had found her.

Quietly, he walked a safe distance behind her. It was only a few blocks to Shannon’s home, and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car.  Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon’s house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.

Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.

“Shannon, come here,” her father called.

He sounded upset and she couldn’t imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa.

“Sit down,” her father began, “this man has just told us a most interesting story about you.”

Shannon moved cautiously to a chair across from the man. How could he tell her parents anything?  She had never seen him before today!

“Do you know who I am Shannon?” The man asked.

“No,” Shannon answered.

“I am a police officer and your online friend, GoTo123.”

Shannon was stunned. “That’s impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He’s 14, and he lives in Michigan!”

The man smiled.  “I know I told you all that, but it wasn’t true.  You see Shannon there are people on-line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to find kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to give out too much information to people on-line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. Your name, the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze.”

Shannon was stunned. “You mean you don’t live in Michigan?”

He laughed. “No, I live in Raleigh. It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn’t it?”

She nodded.

“I had a friend whose daughter was like you.  Only she wasn’t as lucky. The guy found her and murdered her while she was home alone.  Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line.  The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line.  Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you’ve learned a lesson from this and won’t do it again.”

“I won’t,” Shannon promised solemnly.

“Will you tell others about this so they will be safe too?”

“It’s a promise!”

 

 

Cyber citizens have realized the need to protect children on the Web. It is becoming as basic as teaching them “stranger danger.” Many organizations have been formed to advise parents on how to teach their children to avoid the traps of Internet pedophilia. There are ways to report pedophiles and their misdeeds. (Please refer to Annotated Web Sites for more specific information.)  There are web sites designed by adults who had been victimized in childhood who wish to share the danger signs with the world. Many of these people see the Internet not only as a vast place to gain information and perspectives, but also as a huge unchecked playground full of child molesters and abductors. These organizations and individuals give a great amount of guidance to parents and teachers who wish to protect children as best they can from the dangers lurking through their phone lines.

There are always two sides to an issue. United States laws make it illegal for an adult to have sexual relations with a minor. There are those that argue that consensual relations should be pardoned from these laws. There are others that believe children should have the same rights as adults to explore their sexuality at any age. It was difficult to find credible sites supporting such issues. Many Internet service providers have been forced to disallow individuals holding such opposing viewpoints to have space in newsgroups, listservs, or servers.

 

 

Many of the sites listed below give terrific tips on how to avoid problems with pedophilia via the Internet. Two main areas seem to surface throughout the research: parent involvement and parent/child education.

Much of the “danger times” for children to run into pedophiles are the hours right after school until their parents get home from work. Children are more susceptible to getting into sites or chat rooms they should not be in when they know the parents will not “catch” them. Kids who are having problems at home or school are instant prey for pedophiles, who place themselves in positions of wanting to be the comforting “friend” who understands what the child is going through. Parents who know the child may be going through a rough time should be more involved in the child’s Internet surfing than they may have been before. Filters are another way of assuring that children do not enter into questionable sites. Although the argument with filters is that they may filter too much, it is better for the children to not have access to something than to have free reign to it all. Keeping the home computer in a central location where parents can see what site the child pulls up is also a good suggestion. Educators in schools could also benefit from setting Internet stations so that the screens can be easily viewed by the teacher.

Parent/child communication is the key to avoiding major problems when it comes to pedophiles on the web.  Parents can and should demand to know what their children are doing while online.  E-mail, especially that of younger children, should be screened.   It is a good idea, both in the case of pedophiles and viruses, to have a “no downloading” rule for the home computer.  Parents should impart on their children the same “street smarts” they have when meeting a stranger in person.   It is also a good idea to create screen names for children which avoid implying gender, age, or hobbies.  Most of all, if the children know that their parents are interested in what is going on online, they are more likely to avoid sites they know are disapproved by their parents.  Pedophiles look for children who seem new online.   They look for loners, children who feel they have no friends.  Parents can make sure that they spend adequate amounts of time with their children.  Limiting the amount of time spent online is a wise tactic for parents as well.

Parent/child education on this topic should be ongoing.  Teachers and parents can benefit from visiting the links listed below.  Schools may wish to create their own link dedicated to keeping parents informed about the dangers children may face on the Internet.  There are also children’s sites that give tips to children about avoiding the traps of pedophiles.  As long as the Internet remains unchecked, parents need to be sure they are actively involved in what takes place in their homes.  Take a few moments to see who your child is inviting into your house tonight.

 

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